Quotes
"Comparison is the thief of joy" — Brene Brown
"No one is so eager to gain new experiences as he who doesn't know how to make use of the old ones" — Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach
"A failure is one who has blundered but is not able to cash in on the experience" —Elbert Hubbard
"To acquire knowledge, one must study; but to acquire wisdom, one must observe" — Marilyn Vos Savant
"A person is not finished when he is defeated. He is finished when he quits" — Richard Nixon
“It is the studying that you do after your school days that counts. Otherwise, you only know that which everyone else knows" — Teronie J. Donaldson (yup, that me - cool, right?)
Notes/Observations
If nobody knew what you did with the rest of your life, what would you do?
Unfortunately, most people’s fear of judgment holds them back — me included. I spent many years not putting out content because I was afraid of criticism.
Most fear stems from the personal belief that “I am not enough” or “I don’t have enough,” which turns into inaction. But unfortunately, that inaction keeps us from becoming better. And we can only become better by being vulnerable.
Without vulnerability, it is hard to grow.
As a kid, I was taught that men shouldn't feel vulnerable as it is a sign of weakness. Such false bravado has caused more issues in men than you can imagine. Thankfully I unlearned that belief as I now know vulnerability is strength.
Vulnerability also is a sign of courage; with it, we become more resilient and brave by embracing who we truly are and what we feel.
Also, the vulnerability will help us feel secure by allowing us to be our authentic selves instead of trying to please others.
Here is more on vulnerability for an expert on the topic, Brene Brown;
So imagine if the weight of others’ judgment was magically removed — what would you do with your days?
Articles
Watched
Winning Time: The Rise of the Lakers Dynasty
A dramatized fast-break drama series that goes back in time to chronicle the professional and personal lives of the 1980s Los Angeles Lakers, one of sports' most revered and dominant dynasties.
Takeaways
"The house that, YES built." What Dr. Jerry Buss referred to the Forum since it was against all odds that he would succeed.
Believe in yourself and your possibilities. - The revolves sometimes taking outlandish risks to be successful or have a shot at success. Even if the dream is owning a team.
Play to win. If you are going to play the game, go all in.
Strategy
Being grateful in the moment
What are you grateful for at the current moment?
“Be thankful for what you have, and you will have more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough.” — Oprah Winfrey.
I never understood the benefits of daily gratitude until the last few years. Once I started practicing it regularly, the effects were instant. I don’t write gratitudes every day like I want to, but I write them when I am in a funk, and it helps shift my mindset from self-pity and doubt to abundance.
According to a Harvard study on positive psychology, gratitude is associated with greater happiness.
On a practical level, gratitude helps us feel more positive emotions. When we relish good experiences, it improves our health and helps us deal with adversity.
Practicing gratitude is a net positive behavior.
“When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears.” — Anthony Robbins.
So what are you grateful for? #mindset #grateful #gratitude #health #lifelessons
Currently, I am grateful for my Family, Health, Positive Mindset, Opportunity, Creativity, Great Conversations, Food, Water, Home and Abundance
Book of the Week
How to Win Friends and Influence People Quick Book Review
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a self-help book by Dale Carnegie, published in 1936. One of the top books worldwide on self-development and people skills.
This book was instrumental in shaping behavioral psychology into how we know it today.
This book reads like an instruction manual on
how you can get others to like you,
get them to do favors for you
and even change their behavior under your influence.
But – it is not in a way to manipulate or deceive others. And that is important.
The focus is to change others' behavior by changing your own.
The book teaches you countless principles to become a
-Likable person,
-Handle your relationships well,
-Win others over and help them change their behavior without being intrusive.
Humans are not as logical as we think; we're emotional – motivated by pride and vanity.
This is why Social media is so big.
If you don't think so, try this experiment:
Leave a thoughtful and positive comment on the next ten videos or posts you come across – (including this one) and see what happens. I guarantee you will get a response of appreciation, and you'll feel good too.
Emotions have an impact; Because you don't always remember what someone says, but you will never forget how they made you feel.
Think about the last time someone spoke ill of you, no matter who it was; it may have slightly bothered you - we are all human; it happens.
We all want to be appreciated.
So If you get only one thing from reading this book, it is this;
Before YOU condemn others, try to understand them. Try to figure out why they do what they do.
Carnegie also mentions
Six Ways to Make People Like You
1- Become genuinely interested in other people. No fakery.
2- Smile. Our actions, not our words, have the most impact. So when we meet someone, the best way to tell them that we are happy to meet them is to smile.
3- Remember that a person's name - to them -is the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4- Be a good listener. This is one of the most important skills.
5- Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
One of the strongest drives of human behavior is to be appreciated by others.
If you like How to Win Friends and Influence People, you may also enjoy the following books:
1- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey.
2- Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek.
3- Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini.
And if you remember the lessons from this book, please like and share.
Take Care
Question
Playing on the theme of basketball from the drama series "Winning Time: The Rise of the Lakers Dynasty"
Are you playing in the stands or in the game of your life?